There is no systemic, collective, “reverse” equivalent of white supremacy. There are only the spin-offs and the sequels born from the impulse to find one’s worth in the perceived worthlessness of another. Understand this; Black people protesting or affirming ourselves is not the equivalent of white supremacy - it’s the opposite of white supremacy.

It’s so interesting to me that the the “difficulty” of a person only manages to get assessed if that person is one that the collective is conditioned to believe doesn’t deserve respect, or boundaries, or autonomy, or the right to differentiate. Whether or not someone is “difficult” is very much loaded with implications that are racial and gendered and deeply oppressive.

I’ve learned from experience what it feels like to create from a deficit. To create from a place of wanting to prove something or trying to fill something or even trying to get something. To get so fixated on the outcome that I’ve temporarily missed the point.

What if instead of lingering in the space of feeling misunderstood and alone and like nobody sees what I see — what if I just showed up and told you what I see?